Trends, Tips, & Ideas For Your Next Big Event

The bridal shower is an American tradition.  But it’s catching on here – so you need to get up to speed!  In this post we answer some of the most frequently asked questions.

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Is a bridal shower the same as a hen party?

No.  It happens during the day and is an opportunity for close female relatives of the bride (and sometimes of her partner) to get to know her friends.   As such it’s family-friendly (unlike the hen do!) event to celebrate the upcoming wedding that features fun, games and gifts.   There’s a lot of room to be creative - it could be an informal brunch at the maid of honour's home, a spa day, a flower arranging class, or lunch at a smart restaurant.   You can have a bridal shower instead of a hen party but most brides prefer to do both (why have one party when you can have two?!)

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Who organises and hosts the bridal shower?

Typically it’s the maid of honour, helped by the bridesmaids.  However, if they’re too busy arranging the hen party the bride's mother, sister, aunt, grandmother or even future mother-in-law can do the honours.  Nothing is required of the bride (other than she shows up!) but it’s best to consult her on the theme, date, location and who to invite.

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Who pays for the bridal shower?

If it takes place is someone’s home the person hosting usually foots the bill for things like decorations, games and prizes, plus food and drink – but bridesmaids and the bride's family may be happy to chip in and guests can bring dips, cakes and other refreshments.  Get the bride’s ideas - if she wants an activity or a meal in a restaurant you'll need to ask the guests to pay for their own part and make this clear right from the start.

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Who Is invited to the bridal shower?

Traditionally company comprised the bride's female relatives, the bridal party and close friends but members of her intended’s family could be included too.  They can be intimate gatherings of a dozen people or much larger celebrations.

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In the past you wouldn’t invite people to the bridal shower who were not invited to the wedding.  Now, however, some are seeing it as an opportunity to celebrate with those who aren't coming to the wedding or the hen party - colleagues or close family friends of your parents.   This can be a great idea if you want to host a smaller wedding but don’t want people to feel left out.

Bridal showers also used to women-only events.  Nowadays male friends and relatives are often invited too.  Some couples host a joint wedding shower for the bride and groom – or he can just pop in at the end for some of the games and say thank you to everyone for being part of their wedding celebrations.

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When should the bridal shower take place?

Anywhere between two to six months before the big day.  Send invites six weeks ahead to give everyone plenty of notice.  Don’t fix a date until you have checked with the bride which guests are absolute must-haves.

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What food and drinks are appropriate for a bridal shower?

The celebration usually takes place during the day so a spread of cake, biscuits, pastries, sandwiches, wraps, quiches and salads is the norm.  It’s customary to offer a mix of soft and alcoholic drinks such as Prosecco and cocktails.  Bridal showers often have a theme (Champagne brunch, tea party, wine tasting, barbecue, nautical theme…) and this may have a bearing on the food and beverage choices.  As with many of the other decisions, ask the bride for her preferences – does she have a favourite colour, cuisine or activity?

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Should games be included in a bridal shower?

The event used to be just about gift-giving and socialising but games are now generally included.  These help to get the party going and can include anything from a cocktail making competition to a newlywed trivia quiz.

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What is the etiquette of gift giving at a bridal shower?

In the US everyone is expected to bring the bride a present but it’s not obligatory in the UK.  The bride will usually create a gift registry to provide guests with a list of gift suggestions.  The bride opens the gifts with the guests looking on while the maid of honour makes a list of who gave what so the bride can send thank you notes.

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Anything else you need to know?

Hopefully this article answered most of your bridal shower related questions.  If you have any others, or want some input on any other aspect of wedding planning, just get in touch – the team at Clevedon Hall love sharing their knowledge, experience and ideas!

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Hindsight is a wonderful thing – especially when planning a wedding.  Trouble is, by the time you’ve gained that valuable experience it’s too late – your big day is over and gone!  In this post we share some of the things the team at Clevedon Hall has discovered in the course of hosting more than a few wedding celebrations.

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Keep tight control of your budget

Even if you are the world’s savviest spender, and have spreadsheets for everything, it’s easy to get carried away or talked into additional expenditure.  £50 here and £35 there soon mounts up to £500 or £1000 when you are having to make a lot of decisions one after another and you want everything to be perfect.

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Step back at regular intervals and realize these are not just numbers but real sums of money.  Also realize that the answer to every challenge does not have to be throwing cash at it – there may be more creative solutions that are less expensive.  You are also allowed to say “no!” on occasion.

When you first fix your budget make sure you include a contingency (at least 10%-15%).  That way you won’t freak out quite so much when you run over!

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Whose wedding is it anyway?

If your parents insist on paying for your wedding, or at least making a substantial contribution, that’s great – but there will probably be strings attached.  If they want to invite friends you don’t even know how do you politely refuse?  What happens when you want to spend more on the catering but they are keen to keep costs down?  How do you handle it when your in-laws and your own parents are both chipping in but have very different ideas about what makes a great day?  

We’re not saying you should refuse all generous offers – just that you may be solving one problem by creating a couple of others!

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You are kidding me, right?!

Don’t expect anyone else (apart from parents footing bills!) to care about your wedding as much as you do.  For you it’s the biggest day of your life.  For them it’s just another date on their social calendar, amongst many others.  One of your best friends would rather go to a festival than being with you?   Another cancels at the last minute because their cat gets sick?!  Someone RSVPs to say they’ll be there then doesn’t show up or even call?!  You can’t believe it, but it happens…and it hurts.  

People have a lot of stuff going on in their lives and their priorities are different from yours.  You just have to accept it and try hard to not get too bent out of shape over it.

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Choose suppliers you click with

You are going to spend a lot of time with your hairdresser, your makeup artist, your videographer and your photographer, both before your big day and on it – so pick people you like being around.  Obviously you are going to choose them based on their professional competence, their sense of style and their ideas.  But if they have the kind of personality that leaves you cold, or a manner that winds you up, then you’re probably better advised to find somebody whose company you’ll enjoy more – the chemistry is important!

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I wish we’d had a videographer

A photographer is essential, but a videographer as well?   It’s a big extra expense but many brides will tell you the additional cost was more than worth it - there's nothing like a video to really capture the essence of your wedding day, the joy, excitement, laughter….and the speeches.  It will all pass in a bit of a blur so it’s great to be able to just press “replay”!

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Don’t expect trial for free

Don’t be surprised if the cost of your makeup and hair trial is not included in the price for the day.   This can come as a bit of a shock when you are already bumping up against your budget limit.  However, if your makeup artist or stylist is going to spend 2-3 hours working with you before the big day, getting to know you, figuring out what sort of makeup you like and making sure the end result is 100% then it’s not unreasonable for them to charge – and it’s a fee well worth paying.   How you look and feel on the day is pretty important, after all!

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It’s not as easy as it looks (or cheap)

You want to have the biggest and best celebration ever…but stay within your budget.  Many couples assume DIY is the way to go for everything from the invites to the decorations.  What they don’t factor in is the surprisingly high cost of craft supplies and the fact that getting everything to look as good as they did in that Pinterest tutorial is not quite as easy as they suggest.  Plus, do you really want to be stressing over macrame pew ends or hand lettering the seating plan in the final week – wouldn’t you rather be spending a carefree evening with your bridesmaids with a few cocktails?

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The same goes for venues and catering.  Putting up a marquee in your friends field, hiring everything from chairs to portaloos and preparing all the food yourselves has to be cheaper…right?  Looking back you’ll probably realize that you’d have been better off hiring professionals – it’s a weight off your shoulders and might even end up costing you less!

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We’re here to help

You’ll have a fabulous day, come what may.  But hopefully these observations will help you sidestep a few situations that are easily avoidable…if only someone with a bit more experience had shared some lessons they learnt the hard way!  Got any further wedding related questions?  The team at Clevedon Hall are only too happy to share their knowledge and advice so ask away!

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Seize the moment – your must-have wedding shot list

Your wedding day is all about making memories.  And your photographer plays a huge part in that.  Once you’ve decided what style of photography you’d like (see our post on wedding photography styles) you’ll need to draw up a list of moments throughout the day that you’d like them to capture for posterity.  Here are some ideas….

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Getting ready

Having your make up and hair done, getting into your dress, putting on your jewellery, the bridesmaids making their preparations.  It’s a nervous couple of hours but exciting and fun too, with lots of laughter and possibly a few tears – times you’ll look back on fondly.  If you also want your photographer to record the groom’s party preparations then be sure there’s enough time in the schedule for them to cover both – or arrange a second shooter.

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The dress

You’ll have spent many hours trying on different dresses, agonising over the options, going through various fitting sessions – so be sure to ask your photographer to get some shots that show your final choice in all its glory.  As well as some images of just you in your dress it’s a good idea to have some images of the dress before you put it on, perhaps hanging in a window or some other setting that shows it off to best effect.  You could even ask for some shots that capture particular embellishments or details.  This little collection of dress shots will help you remember just how it felt to ward such a beautiful garment.

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Group shots

How your photographer approaches this will largely depend on the style of photography you’ve agreed on.  If you’ve gone for formal these will be more posed but if it’s a reportage style then the shots will be much more candid and spontaneous.  Whatever style you’re going for you need to decide on the groups you want to capture, whether that’s all your cousins, your friends from university or the groom and his siblings.

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Here comes the bride

You’ll almost certainly want some shots of you coming down the aisle, whether the ceremony is in a church or a civil setting.  But that’s not all – make sure you capture the moment you get out of the wedding car or as you approach the venue hand in hand with the person giving you away, or in a group with your bridesmaids as you prepare to make your grand entrance.  These are all moments your other half will never see so it’s especially important to record these for their benefit.

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The “I do” shot

The exchange of vows is a moment of high emotion – perfect photo opportunities for close ups capturing your expressions from a variety of different angles.  It’s the same with the exchange of rings – a few seconds that are seriously romantic but often lightened by laughter and joy.  

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You may kiss the bride

That first kiss as a married couple certainly needs grabbing – make a special point of telling your photographer to be ready for it.

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The “we did it!” shot

You absolutely have to get some shots at the end of the ceremony as the two of you emerge from the church or the room – it’s a moment of great joy and elation, with huge smiles all round and probably a blizzard of confetti.  

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Let them eat cake

We all know you can’t have your cake and eat it – but photographing it before everyone tucks in is the next best thing.  The cutting the first slice is also obligatory.

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The speeches

A picture is worth a thousand words so ask for lots of shots recoding the expressions of your guests during this traditional part of the proceedings – the laughter, tears and glasses raised for the toasts.

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The first dance

Moments as romantic as this are rare so make a special point of asking your photographer to save it for posterity.  You’ll want some close up shots featuring just the blissed-out pair of you but also ask from some wider angles so you capture the beaming smiles of those sharing the occasion.

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The bouquet and other blooms

A fresh flower bouquet will soon be past its best so be sure to get plenty of shots from every angle and in a variety of settings – including the moment you toss it to your unmarried female guests.  The same goes for all the other flowers, including the buttonholes, flower girl’s posy, corsage, ceremony displays, table arrangements and centrepieces.  

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A view of the venue

A huge amount of work goes into setting up the venue for your celebrations – the place settings, the decorations, the floral arrangements, the lighting.  Make sure your photographer gets in there ahead of guests so you have some record of how beautiful it all looked before they came in and messed it up!   If you’ve booked a particularly photogenic venue (like Clevedon Hall!) ask your photographer to take some shots of the setting, the architecture or any particularly iconic or beautiful feature.

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A good time had by all

You’ll be at the party but there will be too many moments of joy, hilarity and misbehaviour for you and hubby to witness.  Plus, by the end of the evening, when you’ve probably had your fair share of drinks, some of it may become a blur.  This is where your photographer comes to the rescue.

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Any other questions?

We hope you find this checklist helpful and inspirational when planning things with your photographer.  Got any other questions about this aspect of planning you big day (or anything else wedding related) then just ask away – the team at Clevedon Hall are more than happy to share their ideas, knowledge and experience.  

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After months of planning and preparation your big day has finally arrived.  It’s going to be a long one and full on from start to finish.  So, what last minute things can you do to ensure everything goes off exactly as planned without you having to worry about the details?

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Hire a wedding day co-ordinator

If you don’t want to go as far as engaging the services of a wedding planner, but you want a little extra help on top of the venue co-ordinator, a wedding day co-ordinator is a great idea.  This allows you to set everything up yourself then hand over the execution to someone else, freeing you up to enjoy the day itself.  Much less for you to remember, no worries about making sure it all happens as you intended and someone to deal with any little issues that crop up unexpectedly.

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Stay on top of the small print

Before you book your venue and hire your suppliers, read the contracts carefully.  That way you know what is expected of them, and you.  Keep copies of them and have them with you on the day (or give them to your on the day co-ordinator).  That way if you feel somebody is not delivering as promised you have the agreements to hand.

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Take cover

Organising a wedding involves some big financial commitments and it’s possible to get insurance to protect you if there’s a serious issue – having a policy in place gives you great peace of mind.  

What could possibly go wrong?  You might have to cancel the wedding due to a family illness or bad weather it will cover some or all of the costs involved.  Policies can also include cover for costs if a supplier doesn’t deliver or you need to hire a different venue or caterer due to cancellation.

Every policy is different but most will also cover your wedding attire, flowers, cakes and rings as well as wedding cars and transport.  Look for a policy that also includes public liability protection to provide compensation if someone is injured at your wedding, or if the venue is damaged by a member of your wedding party.

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Work out what happens when

Create a wedding day timeline so you know how long you have got for each stage of your day.   Include the timing and order that hair and makeup will follow, what time your partner and their group should start getting ready, when your first look will occur, the different stages of the ceremony and everything that will happen during your reception.   Having a plan and schedule that all the key people are following makes it much easier for everyone to play their part to perfection.

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Do your DIY early

Writing your wedding signs by hand, crafting a set of candlestick table centrepieces, constructing a wedding arch or creating your own cake stand?  Get all these projects finished way at least a week before the big day.  You want to spend that final evening relaxing with family and friends, not fiddling around with glue, card and scissors!

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A rehearsal settles the nerves

You’ll feel a lot calmer during the ceremony if you set aside 30-60 minutes the afternoon or night before for a rehearsal.  Get the celebrant to run through what’s going to happen, from how to walk down the aisle and where everyone stands to the order in which everyone leaves the church at the end.

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Where’s Auntie Amy?

Organizing family and friends for the photos can be like herding cats – so some pre-planning helps.  Agree a list of photo groups with your photographer in advance.  Then brief the relatives so they know what’s expected of them.  This will speed things up considerably and mean nobody is confused, frustrated or disappointed.

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Look at you!

Including “a first look” in the schedule is a great idea.  Instead of first setting eyes on each other in front of the assembled company the couple meet for a few minutes in private before the ceremony.  It’s an intimate moment to help settle the nerves and also makes an emotional photo opportunity.

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All present and correct

Guests will arrive bearing cards and presents so have a gift table set up at your reception.  However, everything will need collecting at the end of the day and transporting to your hotel room or home.  This is a job for your on the day co-ordinator - but if you haven’t hired one appoint a trusted relative or friend to take on the task (best to pick someone who is teetotal!).

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Drink responsibly

It’s your big day, emotions are running high and the drinks are flowing – the temptation to overindulge is hard to resist.  The best advice (sorry if we sound like your mum!) is to take it slow.  A glass or two or bubbly will help you get into the party groove but don’t overdo it – you don’t want to be stumbling around the dancefloor or to spend your wedding night in a room that’s spinning round!  As well as limiting your alcohol intake be sure to drink plenty of water – it’ll help keep your energy levels up as well as helping to head off a headache.

‍Relax – we take care of it all

Follow this advice and you won’t have much to worry about on your big day apart from making sure you enjoy very single moment.  Plus, if you book your wedding at Clevedon Hall, all our packages include a dedicated Wedding Coordinator and a Personal Event Manager to give you extra peace of mind.  What sort of help and support do they provide?  Get in touch and we can explain everything in detail.

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Choosing a suitable venue is probably the most crucial decision you can make when planning your wedding.  It’s also a complicated one – there are a lot of different factors to take into consideration.  In this post we give you a list of essential questions to ask before finally making up your mind.

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Questions to ask of yourselves

Before you even begin to draw up a shortlist of possible wedding venues there are some things you have to agree between yourselves.  There are some obvious ones like “what’s our budget?”, “what date do we have I mind?” and “how many guests are we planning to invite?”  Until you have these crucial things pinned down there’s no point in trying to find places that tick these particular boxes!

Another very important consideration is your wedding theme.  No point in looking at smart city hotels if your theme is to be rustic and boho.  And if you have a very modern and contemporary wedding in mind then a medieval castle or Elizabethan manor house is probably out of the question.

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For starters

Armed with the answers to the question listed above you have the basic parameters mapped out – you are looking for a venue that costs less than £xxxx, that’s available on the date you have in mind, that can accommodate you’re the number of guests you have planned and which complements your chosen theme.  This should help you draw up a shortlist.  But this is just the beginning – there are many other issues you need to consider.

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Where do you plan to hold the ceremony?

This is another question only you can answer – but it has implications for where you hold the celebrations.  If you are planning a church wedding then a venue nearby is probably essential.  However, if you want to have your ceremony and reception all under one roof then you’ll need a venue with a wedding licence.  

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How much privacy do you require?

If your choice of wedding venue is a hotel will you enjoy exclusive use or will there be other guests staying?  If the answer is “yes” then you must clarify what areas, indoors and out, are included in the arrangement.  What’s more, if you are sharing the venue with others make sure you know what restrictions apply – do you have finish by a certain time and are there issues with when suppliers can come and go?

Even if you book a dedicated wedding venue it’s possible they may be holding two or more events on the same day.  Check if this is the case and ask the same questions just raised above.  Ideally you’ll want totally exclusive use of the entire venue for all the time you and your guests are there – but expect to pay more for the privilege.

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Food for thought

Food plays a big part in any wedding celebration so this needs particular attention.  Does the venue have its own in-house catering team?  If the answer is “yes” are you happy with the quality and type of cuisine they provide?  Can we have a tasting and is the charge for this included in the overall venue price?  How flexible are they with special dietary requirements?  As well as the main wedding breakfast can they provide canapés with a drinks reception and a buffet or BBQ in the evening?  If you decide you’d rather bring in your own caterers is this allowed?

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Think about the drink

Does the venue cost include some drinks (bubbly for the drinks reception, wine with the meal, champagne for toasts) and exactly how many bottles?  What choice of wines, wines, spirits and cocktails can they offer?  Can you provide all the drinks yourselves and what is the corkage fee?  Can the venue run a paid-for bar and is there a minimum spend to avoid additional charges?  If you want to put some money behind the bar can they run a tab for you?  Is unlimited tea and coffee throughout the day and evening included?

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Recommended suppliers

Most venues will supply you with a list of “recommended suppliers” they regularly work with and trust.  This can be a very helpful starting point when you begin your search. However, some venues insist you can only choose from amongst their preferred partners.  Be sure to ask whether this is the case otherwise you could be in for an unwelcome surprise!

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Ask about accommodation

It’s very unlikely that all your guests will be local so you need to ask about what rooms are available on-site or nearby.  Some venues, such as hotels, will offer a discounted room rate or include bedrooms in the wedding package.  What other accommodation is available in the vicinity and are there sufficient local taxi firms to meet your requirements?  Be sure to agree check-in and check-out times as your guests are sure to ask you!  If a bridal suite is included in the package is it sufficiently luxurious and comfortable for your wedding night?  

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How photogenic is it?

Your wedding day is about making memories and the photography is a big part of that.  Does the venue have some suitably romantic and dramatic settings that will make for fantastic shots – a splendid staircase, a gazebo by a lake, an impressive gothic archway?

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Setting the scene – what’s the deal?

How long do you need to set things up for your big day – is early in the morning the best they can do or can you start the day before?  How early can suppliers get the access they need?  How long do you have after the event to clear everything away?  Equally important, how much help will the venue team provide?  With some venues you can drop off your decorations and they’ll set everything up for you.

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Who is providing the furniture, tablecloths, napkins, glasses, cutlery, crockery and so on – the venue, your caterers or you?   Don’t forget the cake stand and knife!  Most wedding venues will provide this, but is it included in the package and does it work you’re your style of cake?  Some cake makers include cake stand hire in the cost of your wedding cake but others will make a charge for the hire.

Also be aware that some venues have limitations on the use of candles and confetti. Others, like art galleries or museums, may have restrictions on flash photography.  Be sure to ask before you finalise the booking.

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Restrictions on entertainment

You’ll almost certainly want a DJ or band but can the venue accommodate their requirements?  Is the stage large enough, are there sufficient electric sockets for all their sound and lighting equipment, do they have enough time to set up and is there sufficient room for the dancers?  Is the venue licenced for fireworks?  Is the garden big enough for a bouncy castle?  Is there a separate area where kids can watch a movie?

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Indoors or outdoors

If you’re planning a summer wedding what can the venue offer in the way of outdoor settings?  Can we hold the ceremony itself in the sun?  What about a drinks reception on a lawn, terrace or deck?  Is a marquee an option?  Are the gardens sufficiently large for fun and games?  Can we have an evening barbecue and drinks under the stars?  If the weather turns nasty how easy is it to continue indoors?

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Parking and transport

Most venues have sufficient free parking but this will be an issue if you decide on a city centre venue.  Also remember that some guests may not drive, or will choose to travel by air or rail – how convenient, and affordable, is the taxi fare going to be?  Also, if you choose a venue in the back of beyond that can only be reached down miles of narrow twisting lanes some guests may not arrive in the best frame of mind!

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Is that everything?

We think we’ve covered the most important questions but you can probably think of a few more yourselves (are pets allowed, what’s the cancellation policy, how many toilets are there…?!).  Whatever you want to know the team at Clevedon Hall can almost certainly oblige – we’ve been doing this long enough!

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Finding your dream dress can actually turn into a bit of a nightmare.  There are so many different styles to choose from.   You’ll suddenly be confronted by a whole new language.  It’s probably the most expensive gown you’ll ever buy.  So, what initially looked like fun soon becomes seriously stressful!   Follow these sensible tips, however, and you’ll soon feel more comfortable about making this big decision.

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Take your time

Start your search about nine months before the big day.  A bespoke dress takes about four months to make with another two for alterations.  Buying a ready-to-wear gown means you don’t have to take decisions so early but there could be a delay getting your size and alterations may still be needed.  Whichever route you go the bewildering range of options and issues requires ample time for research, discussion and consideration.

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Do your research

A whole new world opens up when you start seriously looking for a wedding dress.  You are going to learn about basque waists, flutter sleeves, Alençon Lace, Watteau trains and the subtle differences between fifty shades of white.  Embrace it - immerse yourself in bridal magazines, books, and websites to learn about fabrics, silhouettes, and the lexicon so you have some idea of what you are getting yourself into.  Create a folder with pictures of dresses or details that appeal to you – this will prove invaluable when you start talking to designers or visiting stores.

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Decide which silhouette suits your shape

Early on in the process you’ll have to learn about the basic wedding dress silhouettes then decide which ones best suit your particular figure (and which ones you want to avoid!).  

A-line Silhouette: gown with slim-cut bodice that hugs the waist and a skirt that flares out gently in the shape of the letter "A" - universally flattering favourite that’s ideal for all body types.  

Ballgown: gown with slim-cut bodice that hugs the waist and a dramatic, voluminous skirt for the true “princess” look.  Ideal for most body types but can be overwhelming if you are very petite.

Basque Waist Silhouette: gown with a fitted bodice that extends past the natural waist and floats away from the body in a full skirt from the top of the hip - one of the most flattering waistlines

Bridal Separates: in lieu of a traditional gown, the bride wears a top with a skirt (or pants!) to create a unique look.

Column/Sheath Silhouette: figure hugging shape that flows straight down from the neckline to the hem. Ideal for lean frames and athletic body types. Also great for hourglasses who are looking to flaunt their curves!

Drop Waist Silhouette: a loose-fitting dress in which the seam falls below the hips rather than at the waist; often associated with flappers and the 1920s

Fit & Flare/Trumpet Silhouette: form-fitting gown or skirt that flares just past the waist /mid-thigh.  Ideal for those with hourglass figure or petite brides looking to accentuate a small waist.

Maxi Dress: floor-length dress.

Mermaid Silhouette: sleek and sexy - contours the body from the bust to the knee then flares dramatically. Ideal for brides looking to show off their curves.  Emphasizes the waist and hips rather than narrowing them.

Midi Dress: dress that falls to mid-calf.

Tea-Length Dress: dress that falls to just above the ankle – a slightly unconventional choice but one that has vintage appeal with a modern twist.

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Have a budget in mind

A typical wedding ensemble, including veil, undergarments, and any other accessories, accounts for 10 percent to 15 percent of the total wedding cost.  Remember to factor in shipping fees and alteration costs.  It’s really helpful to have a figure in mind before you start your search – that way you won’t set your heart on a gown you can’t afford.

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Time, place and theme

Bear in mind the location, season and your wedding theme.  If you’re planning a daytime ceremony on the beach you can rule out ball gowns with long trains and dramatic embellishments. If you’re exchanging vows in a candlelit cathedral avoid short slip dresses or anything that looks like it could be worn to a cocktail party.  Consider the fabric too – most are suitable year-round, but some, like linen and organdy, are more appropriate for warm weather, while velvet and brocade are best left for winter.  What’s more, choose a dress that’s in keeping with the overall theme of your wedding.

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Shop smart

Create a shortlist of stores and call in advance to find out which designers they stock, the price range and if they sell accessories and provide alterations.  You’ll probably have to arrange an appointment.  Shop on a weekday if you can (but not during your lunch hour when you'll be rushed).  Pace yourself - two stores a day max so you don't get tired and struggle to remember what you've seen. Carry a notebook and jot down dress descriptions (taking photos before you buy a gown is frowned upon).

If there are things you know you want to wear, such as a special necklace or your grandmother's veil, bring them with you.   Boutiques will often provide bustiers, strapless bras, and shoes, but you may want to bring your own.   Line up a couple of confidants who share your taste and whose judgement you trust to provide support and advice – but don’t invite a crowd as too many opinions can be confusing.

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Keep an open mind

Try not to start out with a set idea of your dream dress.  Even if something doesn’t seem like your style, or doesn’t look like much on the hangar, listen to the people who are advising you.  Having said that, never let yourself be talked into purchasing a dress you're not in love with.

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Think fit, not dress size

Bridalwear sizing is often on the small side so if you normally buy an 8, you may need a 12.  Forget the number and don't insist on a smaller size because you intend to lose weight before the wedding—order the one that fits now. A gown is easy to take in, but difficult and costly to let out.

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Make the most of fitting sessions

You’ll probably need at least a couple of fittings to adjust a gown but ask for more if you think tweaks are needed. Sort your undergarments, shoes, and accessories before the first fitting and bring them with you. It’s also a good idea to get your hair done in the style you will wear.  Check practical things like “Can I lift my arms easily? Do the straps stay up? Do any seams pucker?”  For the final fitting bring whoever will be helping you into your gown.

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Want to talk dresses?

In this post we’ve hopefully covered some of the most frequently asked questions – but the subject of wedding dresses is a big one so you’ll almost certainly have more.  The team at Clevedon Hall can probably answer them…but if they can’t they know people who can – so don’t be shy about getting in touch!

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The big day has finally arrived and you want to enjoy every single moment to the max.  To do that you need some idea of a schedule – but how much time should you allocate to each stage?  The team at Combe Lodge has hosted more than a few wonderful weddings and here we share schedule tips sure to make your knot tying run smoothly!

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Start of the formal proceedings

In the UK the most common start time for a wedding ceremony is between 1pm and 3pm.  Registry office and civil ceremonies generally take place in the afternoon but those in a church are equally likely to be held in the morning or afternoon.  The day, however, starts long before that!

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Hair and makeup

If you’re having your hair and makeup done professionally ask the artist how long they think it will take. You should probably allow two hours for bridal hair and makeup plus 45-60 minutes for each member of your wedding party.  Practice getting into your dress to get an idea of how much time you’ll need – and give yourself some minutes to spare in case there are any unexpected snags.

If you are having First-Look photos (popular in the US and catching on here too) add an extra 15-20 minutes before the ceremony.  Are you travelling to a different location for these shots?   Add more time.

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Getting there on time

Groom and Groomsmen should arrive 1 hour before the ceremony so that they are ready to greet guests as they arrive.  Guests should roll up 45 minutes before the ceremony.  The bride and bridesmaids should appear 5 minutes before the ceremony (looking heavenly, excited but calm!)

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The ceremony

A simple registry office wedding or civil ceremony can take just 10 minutes.  However, if you add readings, poems and music this could stretch things to around 20-30 minutes.

With a religious ceremony the length of time depends on your denomination and faith. A Church of England service will normally take around 45 minutes and will include an address from the vicar, prayers and sung hymns as well as one or two readings - allow around 45 minutes.  A Catholic service may include a mass and if so allow as much as an hour and a half.

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The photos after you say “I do”

Discuss this with your photographer but 15 to 30 minutes should be adequate. Make sure you have a list of formal shots you need and have the bridesmaids and ushers find those required for each group.  If the reception is in a different location add in the travelling time.

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Reception Drinks

About an hour and a half gives time for guests to freshen up and have a good mingle (with bubbly, of course!)  before the wedding breakfast.  This also gives your photographer plenty of time for more casual shots.  Allow up to 15 minutes for your guests to move from the drinks reception to the wedding breakfast and for them to find their seats.  If you are having a receiving line, add another 15 minutes (or more if your guest list is really long).

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Wedding Breakfast

Assuming it includes speeches you should think in terms of up to two and a half hours – but talk to the team at your venue and your caterers to see what they feel will work best.

Even the most entertaining speech shouldn’t last any more than 10 minutes.  The father of the bride generally goes first, followed directly by the groom and finishing with the best man.  Usually the speeches come between the main course and dessert but some prefer to keep them until after the meal has finished.

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Cutting the cake

This usually takes place before the evening guests arrive and will only take about five minutes.

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Evening Reception

This probably starts about 7.30pm or 8pm is the usual time and goes on late into the night.  Discuss with the venue when they expect you to wind things up.

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Want some more advice?

Hopefully this will help you schedule a sequence of events where you never feel hurried and things progress at a comfortable pace.  Every wedding is different, however, and the team at Clevedon Hall will be happy to discuss how best to make your day absolutely perfect.

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You’ve been picked as a bridesmaid – yay!  But once your initial excitement has subsided you might be wondering “what have I let myself in for?”  In this article we provide some hints and tips that will help you perform the role to perfection.

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Have the right attitude

Being a bridesmaid requires the right mindset.  Whether you’ve never been here before, or you’re beginning to have “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” fatigue, you need to be excited and positive about everything.

Having said that there is work involved and some of the roles are less than glamorous.  Don’t agree to be a bridesmaid if you’re not willing to pitch in and help out. Whatever you are asked to do go above and beyond.  And be a team player - even if you don’t know the other bridesmaids, throw yourself into working with them.

So, it’s not enough to just show up at the hen party and wear a sash – think about what you can do to go the extra mile to make the occasion extra special.  Whether that’s researching cocktail games, or putting together a book of heartfelt messages from the other bridesmaids, you’ve really got to enter into the spirit.  

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Be supportive and make yourself useful

Wedding planning can get pretty stressful and tiring so one of your main roles is to provide emotional support.  That means being the calm one when things get difficult, listening when the bride just needs to vent, providing a shoulder to cry on if it comes to that and adding the fun when things start to get a bit flat.  

You also have a big part to play in helping her gather inspiration and ideas.  Set yourselves up on Pinterest, start some shared boards, follow a few wedding accounts on Instagram, then tag her when you spot things she might like.  Another way you can help is by going with her to events or wedding fairs.  

Don't just say "Call me if you need a hand!" but be proactive - offer to take specific tasks off her plate.  If you’re a dab hand at crafts you could help with DIY wedding favours.  Perhaps you have graphic design skills?  Then you can get involved with the invitations, menus, website and signage.  Someone who is sup organised can take on some of the wedmin - sorting through RSVPs, collating menu choices or researching wedding suppliers.

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Do the dress shopping

Going bridesmaid dress shopping with the rest of your group is obligatory.  The maid of honour should probably organise it but getting everyone together can be a bit of a nightmare so be flexible about when you’re available.  The same goes for choosing colours and styles - be gracious and tactful.  Try to accommodate the tastes of others while helping the bride achieve her personal vision.  

The final decision is the brides and while it may not be your preferred option this is a time for diplomacy not tantrums!  As early as possible establish with the bride who will pay for the dresses and discuss whether that includes any extras such as accessories, hair and makeup.  You want to avoid any awkwardness down the line!

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When it comes to choosing a dress for the bride you need to offer support and advice – unless she’s super confidant and knows exactly what she wants your opinion will be very welcome.  It's also a good idea to be there for the fitting too so you know how to help her into her ensemble, how to manoeuvre the train or tie up the bustle.

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Hen party

Planning and organising the hen party is primarily the maid of honour’s job but it takes a team effort to create a really great one.  Remember that the objective is to have fun and create a great bonding experience for the bride and her closest mates.  But not too much fun.  It has to be appropriate for the bride and the group.  Are we talking a stretch limo, butlers in the buff and a few OTT antics or would a spa day, afternoon tea and a posh restaurant be more welcome?  

The main thing from your point of view is to get involved and encourage the others to do the same.  One bridesmaid could round up some hen party dares, another could contact the groom to get the answers for the Mr and Mrs Quiz and a third could put together the hen party bags.  

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On the day

As the date approaches make sure you have got the schedule.  Most brides like to have their bridesmaids get ready with them, so do you need to sort accommodation or can you turn up in the morning?  Also, double check if there’s anything you need to bring with you.

With the other bridesmaids prepare an emergency kit with safety pins, plasters, sewing kit, tissues and anything else you might need.  If you’re staying overnight bring sleepover essentials – chocolates, girly movies and bottles of bubbly!

The hours just before the ceremony can get very emotional time so be sure to do all you can to calm nerves and prevent any dramas.  The maid of honour traditionally assists the bride but you can probably help too, even if it’s just taking care of any younger bridesmaids and flower girls.

You and the other bridesmaids usually travel to the ceremony with the maid of honour and the mother of the bride while the bride arrives with her dad.  The bridesmaids should arrive at the ceremony ten minutes before the bride so they can see her arrive.

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During and after the ceremony

It’s traditional at English weddings for the bride and her father go first, followed by the bridesmaids – but the American way, with the bridesmaids first and the bride last, is becoming increasingly popular.  You might be asked to give a reading during the ceremony, or to be a witness for the signing of the register.  After the ceremony is over, you should leave after the couple and the maid of honour and the best man.

Once the ceremony is over don’t sneak off for an early drink!  It’s time for the photos so the bride might need help adjusting her dress or someone to hold her bouquet.  You can also do a bit of rounding up guests for the various group portraits.

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Once the celebrations start

You might be asked to join a receiving line at the reception to greet guests as a key member of the wedding party.  The bridesmaids will probably not sit together at the breakfast but on separate tables to host your own group of guests.  Put your friendliest face on – it’s your job to make everyone feel included and to ensure they enjoy themselves.    In the past you would be expected to hand out the slices of wedding cake but now most people now help themselves or it is served up after the wedding breakfast.

You’ll probably also have to take your turn on bathroom duty, helping your mate overcome the problems of going to the loo in a dress that makes it rather awkward – a great bonding experience!

The happy couple will probably struggle to spend as much time with some of their old friends and elderly relatives as they’d like so you can be a big help by making sure these people don’t feel neglected and have everything they need – keep your eye out for people who might welcome a little bit of attention and conversation.   Also make sure the bride has something to drink and eat at regular intervals as the day and evening go on – too much of the former and too little of the latter is not good so be alert to what is required!

Finally, have FUN.  A big part of your job now is to be the life and soul of the party.  Be the first on the dance floor and drag others with you, wear your biggest smile at all times and do your best to create the kind of atmosphere where absolutely everyone, from the most awkward teenager to the oldest aunt, and from the tipsiest uncle to the shyest plus one, has the time of their lives.

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Any other questions?

Follow these tips and you’ll be the most popular bridesmaid ever, invited to do the honours on a regular basis.  Need to know anything else wedding wise?  Just ask the team at Clevedon Hall!

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One of the best bits about getting married is creating your gift wish list – and knowing that most of them are going to come true!  All you have to do is select a gift registry (there are plenty to choose from) and giving is GO!  Having said that, there are a few common questions that crop up for most couples and a few classic mistakes you’ll want to avoid.  In this post we give you some top tips to help you make the most of this golden opportunity.

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How soon is too soon?

Should you wait a few months after announcing your engagement before setting up your registry?  On the contrary, the sooner the better.  Some guests like to get in early and purchase a gift before any pre-wedding celebrations or just want to say “congratulations”.

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Think about yourself

It’s traditional to get stuff for your home.  But if cooking is not your thing a kitchen mixer, a bread maker and a gravy boat is not obligatory!   If, however, you love hiking a top of the range rucksack, gore-tex jacket or GPS mapping device then it’s perfectly acceptable to put them on your list.  Bear in mind that your lifestyle is likely to change.  A family size tent might seem a bit premature but no harm in thinking ahead…

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What have you got already?

No point in asking for something you or your partner has already got.  So, take stock and create an inventory.  This is your chance, however, to upgrade.  You might both own basic coffee makers but really fancy a state-of-the-art espresso machine that delivers barista-quality cappuccinos, macchiato and flat whites.  You might also want to consider having an “everyday” and a “formal” set of dinnerware.

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Taste for two

You need to agree on what kinds of gifts you’d both enjoy and also talk about the style of home you’d like to share.  Boho or industrial, urban modern or shabby chic…you need to find some common ground!   Work together to curate a list that is tailored to your shared interests and tastes.  

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Do the maths

How many gifts do you need on your registry?  Simply multiply your guest list by two and add a few extra. You are not being greedy but sensible - better to have too many choices than not enough. It also means that gifting options won't run low as guests start to make their purchases.

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Price Points for everyone

Some of your guests are not short of money but others will be on a tight budget, so be sure to give a good spread of gift ideas at a wide range of prices.  Somewhere between £25 and £200 or more is probably about right.  Our research indicates that the average guest spend on a wedding gift is about £100, so keep this in mind as you make selections. Make sure you have a few luxury items as there will be some guests who really want to splash out.  Also, big ticket items are great if some guests want to club together in a group gift.  

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Keep track of purchases

Check your registry on a regular basis to make sure there’s still a good balance of options at the various different price points.  As the items on your list get purchased you can always add more.  It’s a good idea to start the list off with items you really want or need – for instance, a new mattress or a really good vacuum cleaner.  Later on, when you have the essentials ticked off, you can top it up with “nice to have” items.  What’s more, some items on your list may become discontinued if you set your registry a long time before your wedding day – if you check the list regularly you can spot these items and replace them.

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Cash is acceptable

Asking for cash as a gift used to be “not the done thing” - but times have changed.  Cash gifts are now very common and work well.  People don’t want to give a gift that will never be used and cash is an easy way of avoiding this embarrassment.

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For the couple who have everything

If you’ve been living together for a while and have most of the obvious items you need or want (lucky you!) you are free to think outside the box.  Ideas could include gift cards to favourite restaurants or stores, a donation to a charity, or a honeymoon fund to cover airline tickets or resort activities.  Most registries allow you to personalise your list to take account of your unique situation.

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Home delivery please

It’s best to get gifts delivered to your home.  That will save guests having to collect then post – much easier for all concerned.  

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How to share your registry details

Asking straight out for wedding gifts is too in-your-face, so don't include registry information on your wedding invitations.   You can wait for people to ask then give them the details.  Your registry information can also be listed on your engagement party and bridal shower invites.  The absolutely best idea is to use your wedding website to get the word out - include the link to your wedding gift wish list.

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When to close your registry

Most guests will buy your gift before the wedding – but don’t be surprised if some do it after your big day.  Traditional wedding etiquette says that guests have up to one year from your wedding day to buy a gift, so that's at least how long your registry should remain active.  For the record most wedding gifts are bought within two weeks before and two weeks after a wedding.  Be aware of this and pay extra attention to it during this period to make sure guests still have plenty of choice.

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Show your gratitude

Don’t forget to send thank-you notes .  This is one of the most urgent and important things on your to-do list one the knot is tied.  A text message or email is not good enough – you should make the extra effort to send a hand-written note.  Gifts received before the wedding should be occasion a response within two weeks of arrival.  Notes for gifts received on or after the wedding day should be sent within two months of your return from the honeymoon.

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Anything else we can help you with?

Hopefully this post covers all your gift registry queries.  However, if you have any other questions about this topic, or any other aspects of your wedding planning just ask us – the experienced team at Clevedon Hall is more than happy to help.

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Congratulations!  Your daughter is getting married!  She and her fiancé will be doing most of the planning, her father will be giving her away and making a speech, but what is expected of you?  This quick summary of Mother of the Bride duties is here to help!

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Let me pay for that…

In days gone by the bride’s parents were expected to foot the bill for the entire wedding.  Now this responsibility tends to be accepted by the couple themselves.  Many parents, however, are keen to make a contribution.  If you’d like to help let your daughter know as early as possible so she can plan accordingly.

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Make it clear whether you are making a gift or a loan.  Will you be transferring the money to them now or do you want them to send you the invoices?  Also, do you expect to have some say in the planning or the guest list in return for your support?

Do you expect to have a say in the wedding or the guest list in return for footing part of the bill? These are all things that would be helpful to discuss early on to avoid any confusion or miscommunication and to manage expectations.

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Take part in the planning

You’ve probably planned a wedding before so your experience can be very useful.  Let your daughter know that you are there to offer advice whenever she’d like – just don’t take over!  There are so many things to remember that you can help by gently reminding her if anything has been overlooked or you feel something needs a bit more work.  “Have you thought about…?” is more subtle than “You’ve forgotten to…”!

Your daughter is likely to be pretty busy so you might like to offer to become the go-to contact for the suppliers, from the venue to the florists.  That way you can take the pressure off your daughter by fielding the inevitable questions.  If hotel rooms need to be block booked you can certainly take on that responsibility.  You can also help with preparing the guest list and keep track of the RSVPs for her.  

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Old, New, Borrowed and Blue

If your daughter is following this tradition the Mother of the Bride is usually expected to take on the job of suggesting and locating "something old" which symbolizes your family’s heritage.  This can be a family heirloom or just something used, vintage, or antique that you love – a piece of jewellery that’s been handed down from one generation to the next always works well.

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Outfit choices – talk to the Mother of the Groom

One of the Mother of the Bride’s jobs is to liaise with the Mother of the Groom about what they’re both going to wear.  Having said that, it’s important to follow the lead of the bride – your daughter will have an idea about the style and colour of outfit that will be most appropriate.

The traditional etiquette is for the Mother of the Bride to take the lead.  You should buy your dress before the Mother of the Groom then share the details with her.  This will hopefully make sure both outfits are complementary and that any awkward issues are avoided!

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Shopping for the wedding dress

It’s traditional that the Mother of the Bride helps her daughter choose the dress.  It’s a fun, exciting and emotional experience – a great opportunity for the two of you to bond even more closely before the big day arrives.  It’s not an easy decision, and it’s only natural if your daughter gets a bit stressed.  Your role is to support her, calm her and give honest feedback – your advice will be invaluable.

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Hen Party and Bridal Shower

Should you attend the Hen Party?  That rather depends on what is planned – it it’s a relaxed spa weekend then the answer is probably “yes” but if it’s a wild weekend of clubbing with some racy entertainment then maybe it’s not such a great idea!  One option is to join in with the daytime activities but miss out on the evening’s antics.

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Some brides have a tamer “family hen do”, as well as a friends one.  This could be something like afternoon tea or a relaxed dinner with the bridesmaids, mums and siblings of the couple.  Organising a bridal shower is traditionally something the Maid of Honour organises and you should almost certainly attend that.  

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Help your daughter prepare on the wedding day

This is a very special time full of anticipation, excitement and emotion that’s important for mother and daughter to share.  You should help in any way she wants – with getting into her dress, pouring champagne, wiping away tears or smoothing out any last-minute issues.  Aim to be there for her a couple of hours before the ceremony.

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Your role at the ceremony

Traditionally the father walks the bride down the aisle but this is not always possible and it’s perfectly acceptable for you to do the honours.  If you’re not walking the bride down the aisle one of the usher will escort you to a seat in the first row just before the ceremony begins.   Your daughter may also ask you to give a reading during the ceremony.  

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Receiving guests and playing host

If there’s to be a receiving line on the way into the wedding breakfast it’s traditional for the Mother of the Bride to be part of that and greet the guests as they take their seats.

Your daughter and her husband (now the knot has been tied!) will be the main focus of the day but they’ll struggle to spend time with absolutely every guest.  You can be a big help here – chat to guests, thank them for attending, ensure they have got everything they need and generally make sure they feel welcome and included.

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Time to dance

The happy couple obviously have the first dance but then it’s traditional for you to take the second dance with the groom.  

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How can we help?

If your daughter has recently announced her engagement and the two of you would like to  share your  ideas for the big day we’d love to discuss how we can make them happen.  Turning dreams into reality is our speciality!

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Most couples spend around a year planning their wedding (a bit longer if Covid puts everything on hold!).  That doesn’t mean, however, that everything is totally sorted well ahead of time and there’s nothing to do in the last week apart from chill out.  You’ll obviously (hopefully!) have all the big things squared away long before that (venue booked, invitations sent, dress bought, cake ordered, ring ready, catering organised…).  But those last seven days are still going to be full on busy.  This timeline should help you keep everything on track.

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7-4 days

·         Finalize your guest list.  Chase up anyone who hasn’t sent an RSVP yet. Give the list to your venue and finalize the table plan.  Send a copy to those who need it, such as the wedding planner, photographer, and designated bridesmaid.

·         Test drive your look.  Take delivery of your dress the week but also try on your whole outfit, including shoes and jewelry, for a total wardrobe check. Get the groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen and little attendants do the same.  Once you and they are sure everything is in order pack all the essentials away safely.  If you are renting your groomsmen's suits, nominate the best man or one of the groomsmen to pick them up and drop them off on the return date.

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·         Have your engagement ring professionally cleaned so it’s extra sparkly on your wedding day.

·         Your wedding shoes are probably brand new, so break them in.  Wear them for a short period of time each day around the house and walk around on a few different surfaces to really test them out.  If the soles are slippery you may want to lightly buff or scuff them for extra grip.

·         Confirm your beauty and hair appointments, as well as the morning-of schedule, with your hair and beauty artists.   Share and communicate your wedding-day timeline to your bridal party, parents, wedding car company and your wedding planner or venue coordinator.  Make sure groom gets a haircut.

·         Confirm timings, locations and other details with your suppliers, including contact details of your planner, coordinator or key person in your wedding party to contact on the day in case there’s an issue (you won’t have time to deal with it!).

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·         Finalise your shot list for your photographer and videographer has your chosen shot list.  Give band or DJ has your song list.  Make sure venue knows when each supplier will be setting up and provide contact details.

·         Do any last-minute shopping for your honeymoon and finish packing them away, not forgetting passports, travel documents and currency.  Double-check flight details, confirm your hotel bookings and any other activity or dinner reservations.

·         Practice your vows and speeches to make sure you are happy with the wording and well prepared.

·         Get final payments ready for vendors and check your contracts for payment deadlines to be sure there are no hiccups.

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2-3 days

·         Go for your spray tan manicure, pedicure, massage, waxing and all your other beauty treatments.

·         Make any last-minute changes to the table plan and print out place cards.

·         Pack ceremony or reception décor items in separate boxes ready for transportation and set up - table number, place cards, favours, menus.   Also box up things like the guest book, cake knife, toasting glasses, and any other items you'll need.  Get the boxes to the venue before the big day.

·         Put together wedding-day emergency kit - glue for false eyelashes, spray deodorant, sewing kit and selection of pins, bandages/sticking plasters, a hairbrush, clear nail polish, nail file, hairspray, wet wipes, painkillers, tampons, extra makeup….

·         Wrap all gifts for groom, mum, dad, bridesmaids or groomsmen with note or card.

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1 to 2 days

·         Place final cash tips into separate envelopes for each wedding vendor.  Give envelopes to a trusted member of your wedding party to hand over at the appropriate time.

·         Pack your wedding overnight bag and get it to where you'll be staying.

·         Have your ceremony and dinner rehearsals.

·         Create an after-party plan.  Who will remove all your items (guest book, cake knife, decorations…)?  Delegate to a member of wedding party if you are heading away on honeymoon.

·         Final check with your bridal party to make sure that they have everything they need – from suits and dresses, shoes and accessories, to shirts and socks and cufflinks to jewelry.

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Finally…

Chill out – you’ve got pretty much everything covered!  Take time for a walk, a massage, snuggling up on the sofa with soon-to-be-husband and watch a favourite movie and get an early night - do whatever will help you relax so you are fresh and rested for your big day tomorrow!

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We’re here for you

We hope this final wedding planning countdown list proves useful – but if there’s anything else we can help you with just ask.  The team at Clevedon Hall have a wealth of experience to share and love discussing your ideas and plans!

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If you are getting married this summer, after the last 12 months of lockdowns, you’re probably desperate to get away on honeymoon.  In more normal times that would likely mean jetting off abroad.  But right now, however, it’s anybody’s guess when one will be able to book somewhere overseas with confidence – a last minute cancellation because there’s been a resurgence of Covid in your chosen destination, or the need to quarantine on your return, is not the ideal start to married life!  If you’re tying the knot in the next few months a staycation honeymoon seems super sensible.  But if the more obvious options don’t appeal (Cornwall, Scotland, The Lake District…) how’s this for inspiration?  The Channel Islands!  They’re overseas, so you feel like you’re getting away for a proper break, but they are still part of the UK so the risks are pretty minimal.

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Easy to get there

Travel to the Channel Islands is pretty easy – especially if you host your wedding celebrations at Clevedon Hall.  Once normal transport services are resumed there are regular flights from Bristol Airport to Guernsey and Jersey.  Condor Ferries also offer daily ferry services from Portsmouth and Poole.

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Perfect for newlyweds

Each of the Channel Islands has its own unique character but you’ll find they’re like Cornwall with stunning cliffs, gorgeous sandy beaches, picturesque harbours and unspoilt rural landscapes – but without the crowds and traffic.   On some smaller islands like Herm and Sark there are no cars, just horse drawn buggies.  Even on Guernsey and Jersey the pace of life is leisurely and the winding lanes are perfect for leisurely cycle rides.  If your idea of honeymoon bliss is chilling out and taking it slow you’ll love it here.

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Great choice of accommodation and eating out

Because they still have tax haven status the islands attract affluent residents so there’s no shortage of sophisticated hotels and eateries.  However, you’ll also find a huge range of guesthouses, holiday cottages, pubs, bars and cafes to suit every taste and budget.   Plentiful fresh seafood with excellent local dairy and farm produce makes the Channel Islands a renowned foodie hotspot – eating out here is an absolute treat!

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No shortage of activities to enjoy

You are spoilt for choice when it comes to clifftop paths, beautiful beaches, crystal clear waters and magnificent views – the walking, cycling, swimming and surfing are all world class, with no end of opportunities for kayaking, jet skiing, windsurfing, snorkelling and coasteering.

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The islands are also awash with history – explore Neolithic graves and standing stones, medieval castles and fascinating stately as well as the massive fortifications left behind after the Nazi occupation, along with enough museums to keep you occupied for weeks.  Highlights include Sausmarez Manor (a stately home with more than its fair share of amazing stories), Victor Hugo’s House (he designed the interior himself whilst in exile from France and wrote many of his best loved works here, including “Les Misérables”) and Mont Orgueil Castle on Jersey (repeatedly attacked and besieged by the French, but never taken by them).

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Island hopping to your hearts content

There are five main inhabited islands – Jersey being the biggest followed by Guernsey, then the smaller one of Alderney, Sark and Herm.  They are all joined up with regular ferry services and you could easily spend a week hopping from one to the next and exploring each in turn.  While Guernsey and Jersey each have more than enough attractions to keep you occupied for your entire stay the three smaller islands are very tempting too.

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Sark, population just 500, ringed with towering cliffs, is just three 3 miles long and one and a half miles wide at its broadest point.  There are no cars and it’s has its own peculiar parliament and antiquated legal system dating back to the ancient Normans (Sark was also the last place in the world where feudalism was practiced, until 2008!).  It’s remoteness and lack of light pollution makes it ideal for stargazing – in 2011 it was designated as a Dark Sky Community and the first Dark Sky Island in the world.  

Herm is about a quarter of the size of Sark – you can walk around it in a couple of hours and never gets terribly crowded as there’s only one place to stay!  The rugged coastline and pale sandy beaches make this a mini paradise.  A crab sandwiches and a pint of beer in the Mermaid Tavern, The Ship Inn or one of cafes is a major highlight of any visit.

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Alderney, a similar size to Sark, is slightly more developed but still considerably quieter than Guernsey and Jersey.  It has a charming small town, St Anne, and a tiny airport with flights from the mainland or Guernsey.  Again it offers a winning combination of idyllic sandy beaches, fascinating heritage, cosy accommodation and superb eating and drinking experiences.

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Looking for more inspiration?

The team at Clevedon Hall is not short of ideas for other “offshore” honeymoon destinations around the British Isles (Scilly Isles, Isle of Wight, Isle of Skye…) and is here to answer all your other wedding-related questions – all you have to do is ask!

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We’re coming out of lockdown and weddings celebrations are allowed again – Yay!  However, as you know, quite backlog has built up and popular venues are well and truly booked for months and months ahead….so you may not be tying the knot quite as soon as you might like.  Looking on the bright side, however, that gives you a bit more time to plan.  Plus there’s nothing to stop you having a great Hen weekend fairly soon.  Booking it abroad may not be the most sensible thing but there are plenty of great ways to “hen it up at home” and lots of fun activities you can include that are harder to organise abroad.  In this post we share some entertaining ideas you might find inspirational.  

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Zen Hen

A spa, wellbeing or mindfulness weekend is a great antidote to weeks of stressful wedding planning and a brilliant way to give your bridesmaids and close friends the opportunity to get to know each other while chilling the heck out.  A bit of relaxation and recuperation with oodles of pampering and TLC thrown in for good measure is the perfect chance to refresh, unwind and rejuvenate ahead of the big day – especially if there’s a bit of champagne and cake included along the way (a detox is all very well, so long as it doesn’t last too long!).  You can either spend the whole weekend at a spa hotel or wellbeing retreat, lounging in the lap of luxury or just enjoy a chill-out day before a wild night out on the town.

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Release your inner Michelangelo

A hen party wouldn’t be a hen party without a bit of naughty male nudity, right?  But maybe a Butlers in the Buff afternoon tea, a Naked BBQ Chef or a Hot Firefighters Cabaret Show has become a bit of a cliché?  So why not a life drawing class with a super fit male model?  It’s creative, it’s cheeky, it’s fun and you’ll have a beautiful portfolio of drawings you probably won’t want to hang on your living room wall!  

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Let’s get the adrenalin going

You know when you watch kids on a trampoline or bouncy castle and think “that looks like a lot of fun”…but then remind yourself that you are probably too old for that sort of thing?  Well, how about going on a giant trampoline…in a cave!  Not just any old cave, either, but one so big you could fit St Paul’s Cathedral in there twice!   An old mining train will take you deep inside a Welsh mountain to a series of three different trampolines suspended as much as 180ft above the cave floor, linked by slides and walkways.  It’s bouncing bonkers fun, sure to get your heart racing and totally different from the traditional hen party activities.  Probably best to leave the Prosecco for afterwards!

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Cocktails inside a computer game

Saving the planet has never been so much fun.  It’s a totally immersive Crystal Maze experience where you and your team of wonder women will travel across the galaxy then battle the fiendishly complicated AI technology within the evil Neosight Corporation.  If that’s not mind-bending and spaced-out enough for you then the in-flight cocktail will certainly help you adapt to zero gravity and add some extra warp factors.  It might not be Henlife as you know it, Jim, but one has to boldly go!

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Really push the boat/hot tub out

Looking for something totally off the wall?  Then the Hot Tug experience will certainly float your boat.  It’s basically a hot tub, full of fresh hot water that’s also a mini tugboat.  Get into your cossies, mix up the cocktails (rum, the go to grog for sailors, is probably most appropriate), then it’s all aboard for a leisurely cruise around Canary Wharf or along the quaint Regent’s Canal.

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Whole lot of shaking going on

Do you know the difference between a Hanky Panky, a Slippery Nipple and Sex on a Beach?  We’re talking cocktails, of course, and a cocktail mixology workshop has just the right combination of alcohol and naughtiness to get your hen night off to a good start.  The term “workshop” is a bit misleading as getting hands-on behind the bar, experimenting with a range of different spirits, flavours and techniques, under the guidance of an expert mixologist, then tasting and comparing everyone’s efforts, is a lot more fun than you’ll ever have in your normal 9-5!  

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Does my bum look big in this?

Want a bit of mayhem (make that mayhen!) then this one is for you.  Everyone dons a giant Zorb suit (an inflatable ball you wear on your upper body) than engage in a series of hilarious games and challenges.  You’ll 'bump and grind' like you've never done before as you barge and bounce off each other in a series of hilarious games and challenges that include Hen Relay Race, British Bulldog, Queen of the Ring and Capture the Flag.  It’s competitive, but impossible to take seriously – you’ll be rolling around with laughter – literally.

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Can we help you?

If you want more details about any of these hen party activity ideas, or want some others to be getting on with, just give us a call.  We have tons of contacts, experience and knowledge where all things wedding are concerned!

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If you’re struggling with pre-wedding nerves just watch an episode of “Married at First Sight”.  Committing to marrying someone you haven’t set eyes on until they arrive at the ceremony – that’s real nerves!  It makes great TV but imagine how the couple must be feeling in the weeks and months before the big day – worried as heck!

Hopefully you have not got yourself in quite such a stressful situation as them.  But if you do find the tension beginning to build here are some tips to help you take your nerves down a notch.

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Anticipate your anxiety

If you didn’t experience some nerves you wouldn’t be normal – so congratulations, you are supposed to feel this way!  According to a survey by fearcourse.com, 71% of brides-to-be suffered from some type of anxiety during the build-up to their wedding. 92% experienced nerves on the day of the wedding or the evening before, while 66% reported that it affected their daily lives or their behavior and enjoyment during the day itself.

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Have a contingency

Money is probably one of the biggest sources of worry as you prepare your wedding plans.  You can minimize these by picking a budget that doesn’t overstretch you.  Break it down so you know how much you can spend on the main items, like venue, dress, food – and stick to it!  However, accept that there are bound to be unexpected things and situations you didn’t anticipate.  With this in mind set aside at least 15% of your budget for contingencies.  That way you’ll avoid money worries keeping you awake at night.  Plus, if you don’t spend all the contingency you’ll have a bit more fun money for your honeymoon!

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Watch your wellbeing

Self-care is something we’re all focusing on right now – and for good reason.  Planning a wedding can take over your whole life if you’re not careful.  Schedule some periods of time that are wedding-free.  Go on some date nights (OK, we’re in lockdown now so you might just have to cook a nice dinner and watch Netflix…but hopefully we might be allowed out soon!).  Take some exercise or yoga classes (on zoom for the moment).  Get into baking, making your own pasta or cocktail mixology.  Don't answer emails, don't field questions, and switch off the voice in your head that says you have to wedding planning 24/7!

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Pretend you’re getting married a month early

This little trick will help you keep on top of your planning.  That way you have plenty of time for the last few details like the ceremony booklets, the seating plan and that dash to IKEA for candles!  Also, if there are any hiccups or delays it’s not the end of the world.  You can spend the last couple of weeks enjoying yourself and relaxing instead of dashing around in a panic.

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Head off questions before the get annoying

Part of the fun of getting married is talking about the preparations with family and friends.  But you don’t want to be answering the same few questions over and again.  The more information you can provide early on the fewer questions as the big day approaches.  Having a website, with a FAQ section, should stop last minute queries about timings, whether children are really not invited, parking and so on.

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Don’t get dragged into drama

Your bridesmaids can’t agree on what to do for your hen night.  Your future mother-in-law is refusing to get on board with the idea of a BBQ in the evening.  Your dad’s brother is in a sulk because you won’t let him make a speech.  Drama is great for reality TV shows about romance and weddings but you really don’t need it.  Preserve your peace of mind by distancing yourself from other people’s issues.  Keep telling yourself “don’t sweat the small stuff – it’s all small stuff!”

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Work as a team

Organizing a wedding is a major undertaking and works a lot better if you play an equal role with your partner – if one of you feels that they are carrying a heavier load, or being left out of decision making, then that is sure to create tension.  Do stuff together, rather than delegating tasks like you’re their manager!  And apps like Trello, Mint and Wedding Happy can be a big help.

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Don’t compare

Getting married is not some kind of competitive sport where you try to outdo others!  You can use Instagram, Pinterest and the like for inspiration but remember it’s your day, your way.  Your friend who keeps telling you about the amazing canapés at her cousin’s reception, or the Real Weddings you see in the bridal magazines – don’t let it get to you!  Whoever said “Comparison Is The Thief of Joy” got it right.

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Chill – we’ve got it!

If you book your wedding at Clevedon Hall you’ll have a team of experienced wedding experts to help you out – pre-wedding nerves are a lot easier to deal with when you have that kind of professional support.

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Every wedding is different, because each couple is unique, with their own story, sense of style and set of friends and relatives.  Having said that there are certain types of stereotypical guests who seem to turn up every time.  In this post we list those that no wedding would be complete without.  Be prepared - they make for an amusing wedding movie but are not always so funny when they show up on your big day!

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The Party Animal

All the way through the ceremony and the meal they’ll be fidgety, just waiting for the music to start so they can make like John Travolta.  They’re first on the dance floor and the last to leave it.  A couple of these characters can be the life and soul of the party…but sometimes they can become a bit of an irritation!

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The Happy Snapper

A wannabe wedding photographer whose artistic talents are wasted in the day job (works in a call centre, warehouse or accountancy firm?).  They are right there, getting the close up at every big moment - vows, first kiss, first dance, speeches, cutting the cake.  Being positive, this can give you some great shots that might otherwise have been missed.  But on the other they may get in the way of the professional you are paying to do the job.  Also, your over enthusiastic happy snapper might post their stuff on social media before you can get the official ones out there.  If you don’t want that to happen put a polite note on the invitations.

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The Predatory Bachelor

The Ladies Man can be spotted on the edge of the crowd waiting to pounce with lines like “I can’t believe you haven’t walked down the aisle with some lucky man yet”, or “it must be embarrassing for you, looking prettier than the bride.”  Keep an eye on him and send help if he homes in on girlfriend who’s fresh from a break up.  Seating him with a group of happy couples may help to limit the damage he’s capable of causing.

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The Judge

The recently married or soon to be married guest who is an expert in all things wedding.  You’ll see her out of the corner of your eye critiquing the flowers or overhear her finding fault with the seating plan.  Ignore them!  

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The Emotional Wreck

Everyone with a heart will feel moved to shed a tear at some point during the proceedings – but this guest is in floods, and bits, for best part of the day.  Just make sure there are plenty of tissues to hand and don’t be surprised if they are continually heading to the loo.  Try and sit them with a bunch of cheerful and emotionally stable guests!

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The Wannabe DJ

This is the character who is constantly hogging the iPod at parties.  This isn’t such a problem at lesser social events but not good on your big night.  You can spot them bending the DJ’s ear about what song to play next.  Head this one off by telling the DJ or band, ahead of time, to ignore all requests.

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The Recently Single

The unfortunate guest was planning on being at your wedding with their partner but it just didn’t work out that way. Naturally they’ll be feeling very emotional and happy for you (whilst feeling sorry for themselves).  Seat them with a fun crowd to lift their spirits.  Keep a watchful eye to make sure they don’t do too good a job of drowning their sorrows or fall into the clutches of the Predatory Bachelor!

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The Binge Drinker

There’s always going to be one or two who have one or two too many.   If the Best Man has a tendency in this direction make every effort to keep him sober until the speeches are over.  There’s usually a bridesmaid who overdoes the Prosecco, goes wild on the dancefloor, makes a grab for a married guest then falls asleep by 10pm.  Perhaps appoint a couple of alcohol monitors to keep an eye out for those who need slowing down or being helped up.

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The Anxious Mother of the Bride

She just can’t help giving her opinion when not asked for it and micromanaging every tiny detail.  Best to give her a few non-essential tasks that will keep her occupied while everyone else concentrates on just having a good time.

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The Life Saver

Usually one of your bridesmaids or quite possibly your maid of honour.  Whenever there’s an unexpected problem they’re on it.  She fixed your hair when the clips came out, re-did your makeup when your mascara was running and kept the kids busy when they became restless.  Make sure you give her a great present once the celebrations are over!

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Looking forward to your big day

Right now you can only have four guests – which makes things much easier to manage!  Once lockdown is over you’ll hopefully be able to invite as many as you like – including all of the above.  We hope our guide is helpful and if there’s any other aspect of wedding planning we can help you with just ask!  

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